Dreaming together as a couple can be one of the most exciting and uplifting conversations you can have! Wasn't this a big part of what you did when you first started dating?<\/p>\n
Dreaming of your future family, a future career change, a future house or anything in the future, you can even eliminate some of today's burdens.<\/p>\n
Dreaming together is one of the ways you reaffirm your commitment to each other and to the future. If you can't dream about the future, you won't have a future together. Think about it!<\/p>\n
Dreaming together requires you to use your imagination, speculate and consider options about how your life together will change, evolve and deepen over the years.<\/p>\n
It will help you to remain open to your own practical, emotional and spiritual needs and those of your partner. It will also help you to speculate about possibilities. You can experiment together with ideas for activities and commitments that are important to you. At the same time unite the vision of your future as a couple.<\/p>\n
When you dream together, you grow together, not apart, because you are both headed for the same future. There are 3 simple but essential ways to do this.<\/p>\n
By having a conversation, you can dive deeper into why certain dreams are so important to you. Maybe your family moved around a lot growing up and was always renting. For you, buying a home and staying in a preferred community is at the top of your list of priorities. But maybe your partner was "stuck" forever in a small town he couldn't wait to leave, and his dream is to move without the "burden" of ownership. Can you both agree on this? Or do you need to find a middle ground that meets both of your needs?<\/p>\n
You will check the values. You'll be thinking about both of your career options. They are linked to other areas such as health, children, spirituality, finances, travel, etc. think.<\/p>\n
Visuals stick to your brain better than words do. Draw, create a collage, vividly describe what achieving your dream will look like, find pictures. Whatever it takes to make your dreams as alive as possible.<\/p>\n
Do you want to buy a house together? Start searching the market around you. Think curb<\/p>\n
Appeal and how much work you both are willing to do on the farm. Talk about what kind of layouts you want. Collect pictures of possible locations, look for paint samples, have a picture of your dream home somewhere you can see it every day.<\/p>\n
Now, wanting a house is one thing, finding common ground and thinking about the work a house must hold is quite another. Maybe you both like an older home with "character". This will be the living dream. But if neither of you are handy, you will need to hire people to help you maintain an older home. That would be the realistic part.<\/p>\n
For example, if one of your dreams is to go on a cruise for your vacation next year, not only look at which cruise, itinerary and cruise line you want, but also save a fixed amount every paycheck. You will be surprised how you can save by doing without something small.<\/p>\n
One couple I know always wanted a vacation in Europe, but felt they could never afford it. We talked about it and when I noticed they both smoked, I asked them how much they spend on cigarettes each month. We did the math, and to their surprise, they found that what they spend on cigarettes would be more than enough for their dream trip. This gave them the willpower to quit smoking and save money instead. A year later they sent me a card from Italy where they spent the time of their lives!<\/p>\n
Your dreams need action to come true. Start dreaming together with your spouse today!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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